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Category: Online Dating Tips
This is where I collect all my online dating tips and Internet dating advice. Together this is quite a lot of information about how to get your online dating experience right and which mistakes to avoid. This is regularly updated with new advice posts, so if you’re confused, disillusioned or disheartened with your dating and lovelife, this is probably the best place to start.
This woman’s dating profile got 3000 messages in one day. Here’s how it’s done
Want more messages in your online dating inbox? Here are some tried and tested ways to get guys interested.
Five Ways to Radically Improve Your Love Life in 2018
A brand new year lies ahead, bringing new opportunities for taking control of your love life. If you are looking for related New Year’s resolutions you can actually keep, try these.
Online dating profile advice can only get you so far. There are no quick fixes
Giving your dating profile a makeover only works if you can also walk the walk. More often than not, there are deeper issues at play.
How to take a great dick pic – tips and insights from a professional erotic photographer
Unsolicited dick pics are the bane of the online dating world, and it’s true that you really shouldn’t send them to women at all (you can read more about those here). On the other hand, getting nude pics from someone you’re actually sleeping with can be a pretty awesome thing if you actually put some […]
Don’t Fall For This Online Dating “Sextortion” Scam Targeting Men
There’s a common and dangerous scam out there that’s targeting mostly (but not exclusively) Muslim men. Victims have to pay large sums of money or risk having intimate videos of themselves exposed to family, work colleagues and other contacts. Here’s how to spot and avoid it so you can stay safe online.
11 Types of Online Dating Profile Pics That Make Women Appear Undateable
Don’t fall for these common online dating profile pic mistakes, ladies. If you want to see some action on your profile (and beyond) you need to seriously up your game! Here are 10 types of female online dater who are making poor choices with their profile pics.
10 Types of Online Dating Profile Pics That Make You Look Like A Douche
Some online dating profile pics can make you look like a total douche. Online Dating Book delves into the scary world of men’s bad profile pics to bring you the 10 types of dating disaster photos.
How not to date online – learning by (bad) example
I’ve been writing about online dating for a long time and to be perfectly honest, sometimes I get bored. After all, much of it is about the same topics, albeit rehashed and paraphrased to make things more interesting. I often wonder whether there’s still a need in today’s dating world to write about dating profiles, […]
The five golden rules for contacting women on dating sites
Messaging women on a dating site is not always easy. Competition can be tough, especially if you’re aiming for an attractive woman. Also, the medium can be a bit confusing, with many men being unsure of etiquette, what women want or expect and what constitutes a good first message. Here are the five golden rules […]
Dating online? How much should you outsource?
Back when I had the time, I used to offer some services to help people with their online dating profiles. The services I offered included helping the client choose the right photo and helping with online dating profile writing. I tried to keep things as close as possible to the client’s own words, seeing as the clients were the ones looking for dates and not me.
Stop Shaming Women For Ghosting Men
Ghosting is the act of ignoring a person’s texts, messages and emails. While it feels shitty to be on the receiving end of it, let’s not pretend women only do it because they’re mean or weak. There are some perfectly valid reasons for ghosting men sometimes.
Dude, Nobody Wants To See Your Penis – Common Misconceptions About Your Crotch
One of my fondest memories of my work as an online dating moderator was getting into the office on a Monday morning, making myself a nice cup of tea and then sitting down in front of my computer for a fun hour of going through the new crop of pictures our users have uploaded to […]
Guest post: 5 Tips for First Date Success
First dates are known for being quite painful at times, but regardless of their uncanny ability to destroy a perfectly good Saturday evening, they are a necessary evil if one wishes to ever get to the loveliness that can be second and third dates. Although dating someone new is always going to be a nervy endeavour, by following […]
Guest post: Why Online Dating Is Your Friend After a Breakup
If you just broke up and are thinking of getting back in the dating game, then online dating might just be the thing for you. There is always a little hesitation after a breakup to meet someone new after coming out a big relationship. With online dating you don’t really have to hesitate because unless […]
Tips for mature online daters
Looking for love can be daunting whatever your age, but it can be especially tricky when you’re over 50. You might find it hard to meet potential partners or to find someone who shares your values and view of the future – or perhaps you simply lack confidence. For these reasons, online dating, on sites […]
Suits you Sir? Online Dating For Professionals
There are fifteen million single people in the UK currently. If you’re one of them and don’t want to be, the question you must be asking yourself is why can’t I meet the right person? Chances are you are one of the growing class of professional people who just don’t have the time to meet […]
What are the rules? There are no rules! Getting in touch again after the first date
Online dating can be fabulous fun allowing for lots of flirting and fantasy, so what happens when you’ve finally summoned up the courage to meet up and you’re not sure about how or when you should contact that person again. In recent years there has been a ridiculous spate of dating rules that seem to […]
Ten Signs that He or She is not the One
Ten Signs that He or She is not the One Online dating is a really fun and easy way to get to know someone, but at some stage you are going to have to bite the bullet and meet up with that person in real time. The fact is that no matter how well you […]
Speed Dating vs. Online Dating – which one should you go for?
In our increasingly fast paced world, dating in many ways is becoming progressively easier and more high tech. These days you pay a few gold coins to a website or a dating agency, and before you know it, you can tap into a wealth of hot singles. Well, theoretically at least! It is entirely a […]
Dating online: how fast should you move?
I’m often asked whether slower paced online dating is better than fast paced, but I find it can be difficult to generalise. Either can cause issues. On the one hand you may end up in a relationship that is based almost entirely on physical attraction, and on the other you may get caught up in […]
Online Chat on Dating Sites
Recently there has been an explosion in chat rooms dedicated to online dating and there are dozens, nay, hundreds to choose from. One of the biggest advantages of using the chat room technique to find a special someone is that you can draw from an extremely large user base. There has to be someone, out […]
How mature singles are finding love in the UK
If you’re above the age of 60, dating can seem a daunting affair. You might have been out of the dating world for some time, whether you are widowed or alone due to divorce. Dating when you’re older may feel scary, but finding love is just the same at any age. These days, there are […]
5 types of date to avoid when looking for love in Canada
The first date is an all-important milestone in a nascent relationship. Get it wrong and there may be no recovery. Because neither partner yet knows that much about the other, the first date must provide the space for a bond to be created. Too many make the mistake of assuming that their choice of activity […]
I think someone I know is being scammed online, what do I do?
Sometimes you suspect someone close to you is being scammed on an online dating site. It could be a relative or a friend looking for love who’s come across something he or she think is going to be the next love of their lives. When they tell you about it, though, it doesn’t quite sound […]
Getting your dating profile to fit the site you’re on is key
I’ve written here before about the need to tailor your dating profile to your “audience” (which in this case means the person or people you would like to meet), but what I’ve noticed a lot of people do is write one profile and then use it on several sites. Now, there’s nothing particularly wrong with […]
Online dating codes: reading between the lines
People are always saying that online dating is a lot like searching for a job. I agree. A dating profile, in a sense, is much like a CV and job ad rolled into one, even though nobody will expect you to include information about your past relationships or give references for exes (can you imagine […]
Dating: to compromise or not to compromise?
Here’s a dating thought for the day. There’s often talk of how fairytale romance (think Disney) has made us have unreasonable standards when it comes to love. Little girls are taught to wait around for Prince Charming and many of us grow up feeling like we’re missing out on something amazing, always looking for the […]
5 things you can do to make your Facebook accont online dating ready
Most people have Facebook accounts nowadays, though in my experience, even the most avid Facebook users would shy away from using the site for strict online dating. When it comes to hooking up with complete strangers, rather than friends of friends, people still prefer the relative anonymity of dating sites. But let’s face it, the […]
Cyberstalking and scamming on social networking sites
Recently, more and more people have been commenting on this blog and saying they’ve met scammers on Facebook, pretending to be British or American soldiers stationed abroad. It seems social networking is turning into a battle ground as well. As if that wasn’t bad enough, a recent study has revealed that social networking sites have […]
5 rules for writing a good first message on an online dating site
Most people turn to me for help with their online dating profiles, but one question I keep being asked is what makes a good first message. I thought I’d write a post about it to give a clearer idea, though obviously these things are pretty individual. There’s generally no one size fits all solution when […]
5 first date location ideas
A dinner and a movie is no longer the default date scenario it once was. Frankly, when it comes to having first dates with people you meet online, there are a few more factors you need to consider. You want your date to be somewhere public and safe (and is a dark cinema the best […]
5 things you shouldn’t do on a first date
First dates can be stressful, but they really needn’t be. When meeting someone off a dating site for the first time, most people nowadays opt for a casual meeting, rather than a full blown, romantic restaurant date. But no matter whether you’re going for a meal or for a coffee or a beer, there are […]
What to wear on the first date? Advice for men
Hey guys! Stressing about what to wear on your first date with the girl you just met online? Fear not. Here are 5 dos and don’ts that should prevent any wardrobe malfunctions once and for all. 1. Don’t wear a messy, desperate or offensive T-shirt. “Hug me”? Out. Your favourite T-shirt that’s losing the print […]
What to wear on a first date? 5 dos and don’ts for women
Meeting someone off the Internet for the first time can be scary for quite a few reasons but picking something appropriate to wear can often seem like the worst aspect of the whole thing. We want to dress to impress, but how do we choose an outfit that will send the right message while also […]
5 mistakes to avoid when starting to date online
If winter, Christmas and the new year’s resolution have made you finally get it together and give online dating a try, then welcome!
Here are some common online dating mistakes you may wish to avoid when starting out dating online.
How long should you stay on a dating site before giving up?
Online dating is not for everyone and it can be a slow, frustrating experience. But what I find is that many people tend to make life more difficult for themselves, by putting much money, time and effort into dating sites that are wrong for them. How long should you give a dating site before moving on?
Online dating advice recap
Looking for free online dating advice and can’t be bothered to search the whole of this blog for relevant posts? Here are a few pointers to posts that answer some of the most common online dating questions.
Online dating soldier scam – men beware!
There are a few very active posts on this site discussing the online dating soldier scam (see related posts below for the list). It’s generally understood that this scam is usually perpetrated by men against women. I just had a comment (see comment #84) posted on the site from a man who came across a […]
What does the Internet say about you?
Here’s something to think about – if you’re talking to someone you met and they know your full name, do you know what they’ll find if they Google it?
Why it pays to have your profile up on dating sites without paying
If you’re in the market for a new dating site to try, especially if you’re completely new to online dating, it’s good to shop around. In my book, on here and when advising clients privately, I always tell people to sign up to a few sites, set up a profile and check out those sites before deciding where to spend your money. This is because dating sites are all slightly but significantly different and you want to make sure you end up paying the one most likely to help you get what you want.
An important thing to know about online dating soldier scams
As you may or may now know, I have a couple of very active threads on this site discussion online dating scams, in particular soldier dating scams. Here’s a comment one helpful lady identifying herself as LilyRose posted the other day. Please read this one and save it somewhere safe. It gives very important information about the difference between real American soldiers serving in Iraq or anywhere else and dodgy African (or other) scammers pretending to be them to scam you out of money.
Online dating – who’s responsible for your safety?
New research suggests online daters have a false sense of security when dating online. But is the increasingly popular trend of pushing for intrusive background checks the way the online industry should go?
Online dating and the World Cup – get in there!
You can try to ignore the FIFA world cup, but chances are that if you are in the UK, you won’t be able to. Signs, flags, big screen TVs and the eternal sound of the dreaded vuvuzelas are everywere and online dating, too, takes its traditional hit, with a small but significant slump during game time.
Global day of action for reporting online dating fraud
I seem to have blinked and missed the global day of action against online scams, but if you’ve been a victim of online fraud of the online dating variety (and, of course, any other variety, but this is an online dating blog) and are a UK resident, you are encouraged to report it to the […]
A useful reference guide for common online dating scams
An Australian online dating company has recently come out with some useful safety tips for online daters, including a very handy reference guide for the ten most common online dating scams. It’s a good site to check out if you want to educate yourself about the dodgier side of online dating.
Australia has been hit quite hard with online dating scams and online scams in general, so it’s good to see people doing something about it (even if it does get their sites a bit more publicity along the way).
Spring clean your dating profile
Yes it’s that time of year again, at long bloody last. The flowers will soon be out, as will the sun and everyone is feeling a little bit like a good, old-fashioned spring clean. There’s no better time to take a look at your online dating profile and see whether it too needs a bit […]
Online dating liars – strange new research
CNN ran a weird article recently, about people who lie on online dating sites. The article details research done by a professor in the University of Kansas, looking into people’s lying habits on one “big long-term relationship dating site” (unnamed, but I have my suspicions). The researcher spoke to over 5000 people and asked them […]
Use Parship for free this weekend!
It’s that happy time again. Forward thinking to Valentine’s day, Parship.co.uk are letting you use their site for free until Sunday. Hurry up and give it a go if you want to see what it’s all about. On a site that won’t let you view pictures before you pay, being able to see who you’re […]
Improving your odds while online dating
How do fate and luck factor into online dating? What can we do to improve our chances when dating online, to prevent ourselves from falling for the wrong people?