First dates are known for being quite painful at times, but regardless of their uncanny ability to destroy aÂ perfectly good Saturday evening, they are a necessary evil if one wishes to ever get to the loveliness thatÂ can be second and third dates. Although dating someone new is always going to be a nervy endeavour,Â by following these 5 helpful tips you can help ensure a pleasant enough date, without pressure andÂ awkwardness, even if you arenâ€™t spending it with your soul mate.
Always Focus on the Positive
Nobody has a good time if it is filled with whining and complaining. Be sure to only comment on theÂ positives in your life and your company is sure to follow suit. Smiles and positivity not only make a greatÂ first impression, but they are also contagious.
Just as important as acting positively, is thinking positively. Leading up to and during the date try andÂ just be excited to meet a new person and not have premade expectations. Having a pessimistic attitudeÂ can really make time drag and you are likely to overlook any positive attributes the other person hasÂ brought to the table. Even if someone is not what you were expecting, having a positive attitude aboutÂ the situation can lead to a fantastic time, and you may meet a friend for life.
Properly Prepare Before the Date
It is crucial to prepare yourself before dating someone new. Try and learn some basic information aboutÂ your companion, maybe from mutual friends or their social media profiles. Knowing a few things aboutÂ them could help decide what activities to do on the date, or provide conversation opportunities whileÂ spending time together. Maybe even consider consulting a psychic for some clarity, and to see if there isÂ any possibility or if they have advice on how to make the most of this particular date. Your psychicÂ should be able to give you some guidance on what type of person youâ€™re likely to end up with, so youÂ should certainly use this when looking for potential partners online to narrow down your search. WhilstÂ they wonâ€™t be able to tell you your soul mateâ€™s name, they will be able to give helpful clues as to theirÂ personality, and maybe even their job or their interests. It is also important to properly prepare yourselfÂ physically. You should try to put your best foot forward, making a solid impression by dressing sharplyÂ and being well groomed.
Have Appropriate Expectations
Always remember to keep your expectations in check. People sometimes have illusions of grandeur, andÂ hyping your date up in your mind beforehand will only leave room for disappointment on your end andÂ put unnecessary social pressure on the other party. Itâ€™s important to understand that it is only a firstÂ date, and this time is for getting to know one another. You should not arrive expecting to be swept offÂ their feet, or assuming their date will be the love of their life.
By splitting costs on any meal and activities, you keep the tone of the date friendly and easy-going.Â There are no unspoken assumptions or expectations when each party is paying their own way. It is also aÂ great way to end a date with no expectations if it has not gone well – nobody owes anybody anything.
Pre-plan your Escape Route
Despite our best efforts some dates are justâ€¦well, awful. Before venturing off on a first date withÂ someone new be sure to have an emergency escape route already planned. Plan dates early enough inÂ the evening to be able to have plans for later on, and be sure to mention them previous to or at theÂ beginning of the date.This way if you’re having an awful time you have an end point to look forward to,Â and if a great time is being had you can invite them along.
Consider having a pal call or text you part way through the evening to check in. If the date is particularlyÂ painful you can take that opportunity to pull the plug.
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