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How to take a great dick pic – tips and insights from a professional erotic photographer

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Unsolicited dick pics are the bane of the online dating world, and it’s true that you really shouldn’t send them to women at all (you can read more about those here). On the other hand, getting nude pics from someone you’re actually sleeping with can be a pretty awesome thing if you actually put some thought into the photo and consider the person who’ll be receiving it. Dick pics can be sexy, artistic, or even funny (in a good way) when done right.

Unfortunately, my experience as a dating site moderator (and a woman) has taught me that many straight guys simply don’t know what makes a good male nude photo (yes, gay guys generally do). Unflattering angles, poor lighting and questionable artistic choices abound (pro tip: don’t pose your penis next to a ruler. It looks lame). So how can a guy get it right and send a nude selfie women will actually appreciate?

I decided to get a professional opinion, so I spoke with London-based photographer, Julia Winter.

Julia’s photography services include everything from professional head shots to pregnancy shoots and makeover  photography for dating profiles, but her West London studio also offers glamour, erotic and boudoir photography shoots (NSFW) for women, men and couples. Coming from a medical background and with a long career in pain therapy behind her, Julia was comfortable with nudity and the human body long before she made the change and became a professional photographer. She now uses her camera as a therapeutic tool to help people gain confidence and get over shyness, shame and embarrassment.

Of course, being a woman and working in the erotic photography business means Julia is not just a creator of male nude imagery, but also a receiver of her fair share of unsolicited dick pics. She’s literally gotten hundreds of them, which has given her plenty of experience of amateur male nudes, as well as professional ones.

 

 

ODB: Why do men like dick pics so much? Do you think they are looking for some sort of validation?

JW: I don’t even know if it’s validation they want. They want a reaction, any reaction. With me, some guys think I’ll be so impressed with their dick that I’ll want to shoot them for free. Obviously that never happens. Because I come from a medical background and have been doing this job for a while, I never have any reaction. I see it all with a professional eye. It’s the same as I used to look at my patients before. For most guys, though, they just want whatever reaction they can get from anyone.

What sort of guys want sexy photo shoots? Why do they want it done?

All kinds of guys. It’s actually very common. There are some young guys who work out a lot and want to show off their bodies, but also older guys who want to do it “before it’s too late”. When they get to about 50, the body starts to look older, but the penis still looks young. So they want to do it while they still look good, so they have it for later. Some do it for their partners, others do it for themselves. I had a 50 year old guy recently whose friends actually bought him the shoot as a present and dared him to do it. So he came and did it and had a great time.

So it’s about celebrating your body?

Not usually, no. I mean, yes, for some guys it is about that or partially about that, but for most of them the process itself is almost like a fetish.  They want to do it because it’s something kinky they haven’t done before. The whole experience of having these photos taken is what this is about for them.

What sort of photos do guys generally want?

Guys always want very explicit photos. With women you get a lot of shoots that are more about what’s implied. Some things stay covered or hidden. With guys they always want everything out in the open. Usually it starts with showing just a little bit, but once they get confident they want everything out, even if they don’t always know how to ask for it. A lot of guys want cum shots. They are obsessed with them for some reason.

Because of porn, I’m guessing.  So they want very sexual photos but are ashamed to ask for them?

Yes. It drives me crazy sometimes. If you want something, just ask for it. If you want balls, ask for balls, if you want ass ask for ass. Just tell me what you want and we’ll do it. A lot of them will say they want “explicit photos” but won’t tell me what that means.

There is so much shame about things like this, though. I even had one guy ask me if I’d be watching while he was having the photos taken. I’m the one taking the photos! I’m not going to take them with my eyes closed, am I?

Every person who comes to do these shoots has some shame about their body or sexuality. Every single one. As soon as we start working on the photos, I find out what it is. You can actually treat it with the process of having these photos taken. It’s basically phototherapy, like art therapy. We all have something like this. I have it too. We all have issues from when we were younger that stay with us. Someone says something to you once and it sticks with you forever and becomes part of the way you think about yourself.

People always think they are not photogenic, but even guys who are models or actors and are used to posing and being in front of the camera are insecure about their dicks. All the guys want is for their dick to look good. They don’t care about anything else. With women everything has to look good. If there’s one wrinkle somewhere, the woman won’t be happy. Women can ask you to airbrush them so they look three sizes smaller or 10 years younger. With guys everything can look like crap as long as the dick looks good, as long as it looks big in the picture.

Does it matter? Do you need a big dick or a particular body type to take a good dick pic?

It doesn’t matter at all. First of all, any dick can be made to look bigger if you know how to photograph it –  angle, pose, even a macro lens, if necessary. But also, most women don’t even care about the guy’s dick size. They care more about overall attractiveness of the guy or what’s in his wallet or how intelligent or educated he is. It’s men who are obsessed with the size. Most guys who come to me have medium sized dicks and they are the ones really worried about the size.

I once took photos of a guy who had a very big dick and put them up on the website, but I had to take them down because guys were afraid of contacting me, thinking their dick wasn’t big enough. As soon as I took those pictures off, guys started contacting me again. The truth is all guys think theirs isn’t big enough and usually it’s not true and it doesn’t matter anyway. For me it’s more about making the photo artistic and interesting and different. If it were up to guys, they’d all be happy to have photos where it’s all black apart from the dick. That’s all they care about.

What advice do you have for guys who want to take a good dick pic at home?

First of all, bad lighting can ruin any picture. So many guys shoot really dark photos. These guys probably never take a picture of their face because they think they are not photogenic, so it’s the same with their dicks. It goes back to what I was saying before: they want to take these really explicit photos but they are ashamed or insecure, so they take them in the dark. It looks really bad.

So what you’re saying is, if you’re gonna show your dick, be proud.

It’s not even about being proud. At least take a picture where I can actually see it. In a lot of the pictures you can hardly see it.

I guess in the studio you have professional lighting to make it look better.

You do, but daylight is fine. You just need enough light so you can see.

Are there any angles that look particularly good?

It’s different with different guys and different body types, but one that works well for most guys is lying on the back and shooting from above with the dick standing, and showing maybe the hands and some of the guy’s face. It looks good even for guys who are a bit overweight.

So it’s important for the penis to be erect.

Yes, otherwise what’s the point? In the studio with the camera and the lights where it’s not natural for guys to get erect, I often shoot with a female assistant so it’s easier for guys to get in the mood. At home they can do whatever.

Are there any angles that tend to look really bad?

Sitting and pointing the camera down, which is unfortunately what most guys do when taking dick pics. It’s just really unflattering in general, and if the stomach isn’t flat then it comes out and it just looks really not very good at all.


So guys, forget about your size obsession, put some thought into your pictures and avoid poor lighting and unflattering angles. Women care less about your dick size and more about overall appearance, but if you’re going to go through the trouble of sending us a picture of your penis, at least take one where we can actually see it!


 

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