I had an interesting discussion recently with someone who’d tried online dating and was disappointed. She said she’d been taken aback by people’s habit of continuing to search for more matches online even after they’d been on a seemingly good date.
To her, this implied that people did not take online dating seriously enough – as if relationships formed online were more “disposable”.
There’s already been much discussion about how online dating has changed relationships, but my take on it is different than the above. With the main attraction of online dating often being the sheer number of eligible singles you can meet, it’s not hard to understand why people may not want to settle on the first person they meet. Sure, there are players and casual daters who set out to find one person after another, but those searching for a husband or a wife have even more of a vested interest in being choosy.
Personally, I believe that relationships that follow a period of active dating can actually end up being stronger and more meaningful, as there wouldn’t be a question of whether one person settled for the other.
Of course, if someone is successful at dating online, the temptation can always be there to try for someone better, any time something seems to go wrong in the relationship they’re in – actually making relationships “disposable”.
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