Regular guest poster K Thompson is back for another great post on the site, dedicated to those of you looking to get back with your ex.
I know that it sucks your relationship ended, but the fact that your ex-boyfriend left you means that there was something majorly wrong with the relationship you had with him. And even if you do get your ex back, chances are your relationship will end again unless you do something that will make this relationship much better than the last one.
There are a few things you can do to make sure that when you get your ex boyfriend back, you keep them forever.
1. Analyze Your Relationship
What was the reason your ex left? Most of the times, the reason they give while breaking up is not the real reason. Something like â€œItâ€™s not you, itâ€™s me.â€ Or â€œI just donâ€™t love you anymoreâ€. In most cases, the reason they left is because they have lost attraction towards you. Men, usually are not in touch with their feelings and they canâ€™t understand whatâ€™s wrong. But when they feel that somethingâ€™s wrong, they are quick to bail.
In most of the cases, neediness plays an important role in breakups. Men can sense neediness form a mile away and it usually turns them off. Many relationships start with the girl being confident and attractive but ending up being needy over time. When men lose the thrill of chasing and realize they already have you, they start analyzing whether or not you are a good match for being a long term partner. And if you show too much neediness or low self-esteem, they start thinking about leaving.
2. Work on Yourself
Working on yourself, including your confidence, your self-esteem and your self-actualization is going to serve a double purpose. Itâ€™s going to help you get your ex back and itâ€™s going to help you keep your ex forever. Hereâ€™s why.
– When you work on yourself, you are going to look more confident, independent and attractive. These are the qualities that your ex canâ€™t resist. And when you meet him, he is going to fall head over heels over you. He will be second guessing his decision of leaving you and will start thinking about getting back together. If you play your cards right, there is nothing stopping you two from getting back together.
– When you do get back together, you are going to keep the attraction going because you have worked on your self-esteem before. If you donâ€™t fall back to your old ways and continue working yourself, your ex will do anything to keep you with him forever.
3. Put Yourself before Him
Your boyfriend should not be your priority no. 1 in life. Itâ€™s good to have a relationship and he should be important for you, but if you put yourself before him, he is going to walk all over you and then he will leave you, again.
If you make your happiness the no. 1 priority in your life, then you are going to find happiness. However, the problem is that most women think of their ex-boyfriend as the only source for their happiness. If your boyfriend really cared about your happiness, then why are you so miserable without him? If you really made your happiness your no. 1 priority, then you wouldnâ€™t let your source of happiness be someone who left you. You would learn to be happy without your ex boyfriend.
When you learn to be happy without your ex boyfriend, you instantly become more attractive to your ex. And when you do win your ex back, you are no longer needy (because you know you donâ€™t need him for your happiness) and as a consequence a thousand times more attractive.
K Thompson helps people with breakups. He has been writing online and helping broken hearts for the past two years.