True love online – not just for gorillas

March 30th, 2009

I was reading today that a pair of gorillas are celebrating the birth of their first child after being successfully matched by online dating.

Someone left a comment on the article, lamenting the so-called death of similar love-focused introduction agencies for humans and claiming online dating is now only used by people who want to make use of the large number of available singles to lead lives full of casual relationships only.

But is romance really dead online?

In today’s modern world, people are generally more accepting of the fact that sometimes settling down and starting a family is not on the agenda (for both men and women). Yes, there are serial daters out there, but even people who end up happily married and raising kids can go through phases of just wanting something not so serious. In the olden days, when this was less acceptable (and nowadays in parts of society when it still isn’t), people would just do all their casual dating behind the scenes by cheating on their partners. Personally, I find the alternative, i.e. being honest about your needs and taking things easy, a much better option than fake fidelity.

Online dating is indeed a reflection of society’s needs and wants and so is full of sites that cater for casual dating. But if you look at the large numbr of dating sites set up specifically for those looking for marriage and long term relationships, you realise there is much more to the complete picture. There are also plenty of posh introduction agencies popping up, which tells me love is far from dead. Nobody would pay hundreds or thousands of pounds to find a weekend fling.

Perhaps the days of the meddling, parent-hired matchmaker are behind us, but people are still looking for help in finding serious relationships. Maybe they just want to feel more like they are in control of the process instead of things being decided for them by someone else – after all, we’re not all caged gorillas.

In a sense, people who are looking for that one in a million, rather than a short term fling, can benefit even more from the large pool of singles made accessible by dating online, although they will undoubtedly need to work harded to find that person, sorting through thousands of potential matches until they find “the one”. Like the gorillas in the story above, cautious, serious daters can do more background checks before meeting up, ensuring a minimum level of compatibility exists, which can give them the confidence to let themselves go and fall in love.

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2. Is love still built to last?
3. 5 things you need to get over if you want to find love online
4. Serial dater finds love

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