Match.com launch Date Explorer competition

If you’re in the UK, are single and want to travel the world on Match.com‘s buck, I have some good news for you. Just have a look at this info I got sent and, if this is you, follow their instructions for your chance to win what sounds like a pretty sweet deal.

 

For 6 weeks this June/July one lucky single could be travelling to Rome, Rio de Janeiro, Paris, Stockholm and NYC with flights, hotels + generous travel money all courtesy of Match.com.

 

All the lucky single needs to do is apply to be a Date Explorer, have an outgoing personality, and send us Brits back any dating tips they find.

 

The deadline for applications is the 30th April 2015.

 

For further details please check out http://advice.uk.match.com/date-explorer/apply-be-our-date-explorer

eHarmony free communications weekend in the UK 22-26/8/13

eHarmony UK are having another one of their popular free communications weekend this coming weekend. If you’re signed up to the site as a free member, you’ll be able to send and receive messages for free from the 22-26 of August. So set yourself some time to go through the lengthy personality test before Thursday so you’re good to go with some matches to contact when the free weekend kicks in. It’s a great way to try out the site and get in touch with people for free. Of course, always read the small print before putting in your card details!

Click here to sign up with eHarmony.

Suits you Sir? Online dating for professionals

There are fifteen million single people in the UK currently. If you’re one of them and don’t want to be, the question you must be asking yourself is why can’t I meet the right person? Chances are you are one of the growing class of professional people who just don’t have the time to meet anyone. If you’re a professional looking to meet a special someone, online dating for professionals has to be a credible answer.
Increasingly we are all working longer hours. The 9 to 5 for most professionals is a thing of the past. Many of us are at our desks or in meetings by 8 in the morning, we will perhaps snatch a coffee at some stage, and will eat a sandwich at our desks, sprinkling crumbs into the keyboard while valiantly trying not to drip salad cream down our shirts. Leaving before 6 is unusual and we have to add a long commute into the mix. We go home and do more work, or attend to chores, before collapsing in front of the TV and then dragging ourselves to bed. Sound familiar?
Approximately 15% of people meet their partners through work but if you are a professional you may feel that flirting with colleagues is unseemly. At the same time however, you would like to meet someone who has similar career aspirations to yourself, or is at a similar stage of their career, or at the very least understands that holding down a professional job is demanding and exhausting. For this reason you may well want to turn to an online professional dating site and there are plenty around!
Have a look at the various online dating sites for professionals that you can find, and see which one attracts you most. Once you have identified a good one take the time to fill out the profile in as much detail as you can. Make a date with yourself so that you have the time to do it. If you’re seriously pushed for time, then remember that you don’t have to complete it all at once, and if you absolutely can’t do it, you can pay a freelancer to complete it for you. Either way it is worth investing time and/or money in a good profile. Because it will do a lot of the initial groundwork for you by attracting people to you. Professional online dating sites allow you to meet accessible people and the profile helps to narrow down the focus.
When you’re completing the section of your profile that outlines what you are looking for try not to be too selective. High expectations are fine, but you may be single precisely because you’re not casting your net wide enough. Open yourself up to new experiences and new people. Don’t dismiss them just because they’re a little larger framed or short in the leg than you’d ideally like. If you have chemistry online and the first phone call goes well, then they have to be worth meeting. It’s just a drink after all.
In terms of scheduling a date, if you live locally try meeting for a coffee at lunchtime or a quick drink after work. It doesn’t have to take long; you’re just testing the water. Show interest by arriving on time and asking lots of questions. Be yourself and be confident. There’s no reason not to be.
Once you have met someone you click with you really ought to make the time to see that person, because you can’t keep a relationship going for very long by text message. If you can’t do that then there really is no point in pursuing a relationship at all, is there? Add into the mix that you don’t have any leisure pursuits or any interests and it’s a no brainer. You might need to sit back and take a look at your work/life balance! However, if you commit yourself to playing the game, you’ll find that online dating for professionals is a mainstream solution to a growing problem; give it a go!

Looking for dating sites specialising in online dating for professionals? Try these!

  1. Parship– Don’t fear their lengthy sign up process, this site has some quality people dating on it.
  2. Lovestruck.com – If you’re urban and you know it, you’ll love their no-nonsense approach to professional dating.
  3. Love and friends – A UK only dating site aimed at professionals. Draws a very good crowd, though can be a bit clunky.
  4. Guardian Soulmates – UK site frequented by liberal, cultural professional graduates

Speed Dating vs. Online Dating – which one should you go for?

In our increasingly fast paced world, dating in many ways is becoming progressively easier and more high tech. These days you pay a few gold coins to a website or a dating agency, and before you know it, you can tap into a wealth of hot singles. Well, theoretically at least! It is entirely a matter of personal preference whether you prefer online dating to speed dating, or vice versa, or perhaps you have never tried either, but although you might be wary of one or the other, they both have a lot going for them.
Take speed dating for example. Speed dating gives you a fun night out. It tends to take place in a glitzy and sophisticated bar and you get to dress up to the nines, and take a friend along to provide Dutch courage! Try not to get too nervous or read too much into it; you need to approach evenings like this with a relaxed and fun attitude and take it all with a pinch of salt.
The big advantage of speed dating of course is that you are guaranteed to meet other singles (ostensibly). Everyone is there for the same reason; they are trying to find someone just like you are. You sit at a table and chat to a stranger for a fixed amount of time, usually between 3 and 5 minutes, although occasionally this might be up to ten, and tick a box if you like them. Then a bell rings and the guy moves on to the next table. The organisers take care of the details and email the next day with your matches. Your personal data is never shared with anyone else. You can choose to pursue a follow up date or not.
With speed dating you need to remember that first impressions count a great deal. You really have to be looking your best, and you ought to be capable of making small talk and looking someone in the eye; so if you’re desperately shy, speed dating is probably not for you!
Online dating on the hand is much slower than speed dating and is almost the complete opposite. You set up a carefully crafted profile that presents a face to the world that you are happy to display and you never have to provide spontaneous answers to probing questions. You can take your time to answer any messages and think about how you wish to answer without worrying that you’ll blurt out some ridiculous nonsense that you’ll never live down.
The other great thing about online dating is that unless you’re going to be conversing by web cam or Skype, you can attend to your messages and profile while sat in your pyjamas eating a sherbet dib-dab if you really want to.
Online dating also provides you with a vast array of interesting people all with the potential to date. As far as you know they all want to date you too. But therein lies the drawback. With online dating you can never be sure that people are who they say they are. They can misrepresent themselves, or just downright lie. This might be their job, their appearance, their age or their relationship status. Until you’ve made eyeball contact and gotten to know them you need to use a certain amount of caution.
The other drawback with online dating is that you will have a tendency to create mental images of another person, or even of yourself. Eventually the bubble will burst when you have met and cold reality strikes.
However, at least if you have been getting to know someone virtually you have already broken the ice. Speed dating can be quite awkward especially if you feel everyone else at the event is more gorgeous, glamorous, sociable and bubbly than you are, damn them, or if you don’t hit it off with the person sat opposite you and seriously can’t think of anything to say. It can be quite difficult to make small talk at first but after a few rounds, if you’re not bored of the repetitive process already, you should hit your stride and be able to ask some questions.
Probably the very worst thing that can happen when you’re speed dating is that you get an email from the organisers the next day explaining that you made no matches. In some ways, online dating is a hell of a lot kinder to your ego. If you’re rejected on an online dating site, you can simply message a new person to begin the process again, and reach for another sherbet dib-dab.

Want to have a go at speed dating? Here are some companies running some very popular events:

Grapevine Social

Single Solution

Slow Dating

Urban Social

About

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My name is Shimrit Elisar and I am a writer and journalist who used to work for the UK’s busiest online dating network, then owned by a company called Allegran (later bought by the Daily Mail, who drove it to the ground until it was sold at least twice more, but that’s an entirely different story).

I wrote a book, Everyone’s Guide to Online Dating, teaching people how to make the best of the Internet dating world, which was all pretty new and confusing to the vast majority of people back then (actually, it’s pretty confusing for many people now, too!). I based this on my work as a moderator / customer service agent for Allegran’s 6 dating sites (Loopylove, Pocado, Girlsdateforfree, datingforparents, DreamsDiscovered and a flirting site I now forget) where I looked at many thousands of dating profiles on a daily basis and helped users with matters ranging from how to write a good first message to whether or not they should bring flowers to the first date. I then became the company’s marketing manager and learned a whole lot more about the industry, some of which also ended up in the book.

I have 20 years’ experience of Internet social platforms. It actually predates the invention of the Web itself, as I was one of the first women to use IRC, the Internet’s first international chat platform. While using it, I became, I believe, one of the first online daters.

Everyone’s Guide to Online Dating, was the first online dating guide to be written specifically for the UK market. It’s still out there, but as I rather foolishly went with the first publisher that said yes, I’m not really in control of it anymore and it’s not been updated in years. This blog grew out of the book, originally seen as a way to promote it. Nowadays it is far more up to date and active than the book itself. While I also write about other things nowadays, I’m still involved with the online dating scene and occasionally take the time to comment on stuff that’s going on or share info and deals that come my way. Occasionally I get guest writers in to add to the site. Hopefully, at some point there will be regular staff writers.

 

Very important disclaimer: This is a personal page for me and my book. It is in no way meant to represent the opnions of How To Books, Allegran Limited and any other people or companies I am in any way connected to now, in the past or in the future.

I am available for interviews, commentary and journalistic work covering all aspects of online dating. Feel free to email me at: shimrit@onlinedatingbook.co.uk